The tamer my love, the farther away it is from love. In fierceness, in heat, in longing, in risk, I find something of love's nature. In my desire for you, I burn at the right temperature to walk through love's fire. So when you ask me why I cannot love you more calmly, I answer that to love you calmly is not to love you at all. Jeanette Winterson
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The tamer my love, the farther away it is from love. In fierceness, in heat, in longing, in risk, I find something of love's nature. In my desire for you, I burn at the right temperature to walk through love's fire. So when you ask me why I cannot love you more calmly, I answer that to love you calmly is not to love you at all." The quote above explains the central idea of the poem "To a Wild Rose" by William Wordsworth.

The poem is about finding and maintaining a balance between passion and reason within one's relationship with another person. This balance must occur if we hope to maintain our sanity and avoid becoming too passionate or too coolheaded. When we reach such extremes of emotion it is easy to lose the ability to reason about who we are and how we might better our relationship.

When we become too passionate or cold-hearted we become less desirable as people and eventually end up hurting those we intend to be with.

Source: The Powerbook

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